Updated: Mar 31
"Fill your and your mum's life with joy and happiness, make cancer a catalyst for enjoying and living life. Embrace her illness, cancer can either be the death or the birth of someone, choose life!"
There are pivotal moments in our lives where we have to make critical decisions, I never would have thought at the young age of 26 I would hear such catastrophic, life-altering news.
This moment of my life more than any other has been etched into my soul and it’s a moment that I will never forget. Looking into my mum's eyes filled with tears as she said “it’s cancer”. My whole world crumbled around me, I was in disarray and deep despair.
Seeing someone who you deeply care about for their light and soul to flicker is decimating. My first port of call was to pray for God’s support and his guidance although it was out of sheer desperation at the time. Now I am in deep appreciation for the opportunity that he has presented me and my family through this time of despair.
With the help, encouragement, candour and love from my mentor Chris Nash and those at Lighthouse International Group; including Paul Waugh, the Senior Associate Partners, Victoria Bytel and all other Associates I have been able to provide my mum and family with the right support to help her begin healing and making the most out of her and our lives.
They say every cloud has a silver lining, I never thought I would be in a position to care deeply and share what I have been through to help others with shocking life situations and illnesses.
You’re really not alone, bless your mum and you, thank you for reaching out. I too am going through the same feelings as you, feelings of despair, uncertainty, upset. It can be daunting knowing and seeing that your mum is in pain and suffering which really cuts deeply, for me it is the worse thing that I will ever go through. Although you are in a situation that no one can ever be prepared for, you have to value the human being that your mum is, not just to you but to herself and everyone around her! My suggestion would be to look at ways to honour her life, really start to spend time with her, go out for walks, go to her favourite restaurant, listen to her favourite music, cook her favourite meals, SHOW HER HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HER AND YOUR LIFE! Fill your and your mum's life with joy and happiness, make cancer a catalyst for enjoying and living life. Embrace her illness, cancer can either be the death or the birth of someone, choose life!
I'm going through my mum having cancer right now. I could have never been able to cope with it without being mentored over the last 3 years. Having people around me to support me through this turmoil that me and my family are facing is amazing. I've learnt that the most important thing is to have the support around us to help us and our families. If anyone, you, anyone you know or anyone who reads this would value support, please get in touch with me via email. firstname.lastname@example.org or message me privately. Please, remember, you are not alone!
A dear friend of mine who’s just gone through cancer herself and is currently helping me has written an extremely moving blog. Please take the time to read it, she has done so much for me, my family and my mother. The link’s below.
Please, if there is anyone who feels that they need help, encouragement, guidance or needs to speak to someone do not hesitate to get in touch through our contact page. Everyone at Lighthouse International Group has helped me to value my life, to grow through pain and bring my family closer together through what can potentially tear families apart. Thank you.