Finally Breaking Out of Old Patterns

Updated: Mar 2

Being mentored at Lighthouse International has been unlike anything I could have expected from a mentoring experience honestly. I’d been receiving therapy for a few years before I met my mentor Kris but I was stuck in the same cycles of destructive behaviour. From my very first phone call with him, it felt like I had met someone who was speaking my language. And I say that with all due credit to my therapists, but I was still going in circles. Over the first few months I worked together with my mentor and others at Lighthouse International Group as part of mastermind groups, I was supported in overcoming some deep social anxiety I was having relating to the breakdown of a previous romantic relationship.


I started to understand my value as a human being and how to stop deriving my self-worth from other people in a way that actually worked. With patience, honesty and kindness but also a lot of candour, Kris and I worked together through our mentoring relationship, coaching me, counselling me and addressing the painful areas of my own shadow, like my self-pity relating back to my parents’ messy divorce. And this is still something that I struggle with enormously - I’m still healing from all the hurt and pain I experienced through that, and that’s been where my self-pity can have a field day, because I think “why did my parents have to hurt me so much?” And I can go around the houses again like I did in therapy, but mentoring has been helping me to learn how these cycles of self-doubt, self-pity and self-loathing happen, so gradually I have begun to really heal.


And I’ve been amazed at how this healing and growth has ricocheted through my life! After my first year of mentoring, I started a new job with a huge pay increase because of how much more I had grown in my character and competence in a seemingly short amount of time. When the pandemic hit and I re-evaluated my life, I asked about how to become a part of the incredible work which had helped me so much. For the last year I have been training as a mentor and associate elect myself and although it has been challenging, it's felt like leaving no stone unturned in how I can break out of the old patterns that were destroying me. The positive effect it has had on my life, particularly physically having healed from a long term illness that had impacted me severely for 5 years.


The commitment and dedication to growth and healing from the community at Lighthouse International Group with particular additional support from Shaun Cooper and Paul Stephen Waugh, has been inspiring to me and has helped me overcome challenges and illnesses I thought I would have for the rest of my life. I would recommend it to anyone who is serious about making breakthroughs.


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