Updated: Apr 20
Why trying to appease a troll’s finicky and fluctuating expectations is futile
Written by Vivienne Juan, Associate Elect Partner
Internet trolls these days are a dime a dozen, but the original, sometimes more sinister trolls can be closer to home than you think. Trolling within narcissistic families, and from parents in particular, not only comprise our first experiences of trolling, but can continue to keep us under the thumb as we get older.
According to Psychology Today, the needs of the parents are the focus of a narcissistic family, and the children are expected in various ways to meet those needs. This includes adult children of narcissistic parents!
In the video below, Lighthouse International Group’s Head Mentor, Paul Waugh, shares about the personal experience of Senior Partner, Kris Deichler, with toxic narcissism. To hear more about Kris’ story, read his blog about his experience of being in a controlling family.
If you want to understand in more detail and depth about narcissism and toxic narcissism in families, here is a thorough and necessary article from Sally Davis.
For more on handling toxic narcissism, to get the right help, or to register for a support group, please check out our Parents Against Trolls & Trolling campaign.
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