Lighthouse International's Paul Stephen Waugh Answers: What is a Win-Win, First-Class Relationship?

Vivienne
Dec 31, 2021
1 min read

Updated: Feb 10, 2022

Head Mentor, Paul Stephen Waugh, contrasts the symptoms of destructive “relationships” with what constitutes and characterises the real peak state interactions that we deserve to be seeking for ourselves and with others.

Written by Vivienne Juan, Associate Elect

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8 Comments

jatindersingh4

Mar 19, 2022

Thanks Viv - true win/win is so much more than giving and getting! It’s mental, emotional and spiritua.

simonperreira

Jan 01, 2022

The ability to seek and build a first class relationship is crucial. It's not always easy and there are times when you are challenged and held accountable, but ultimately why would you not want a relationship with someone who truly and deeply cares for you?

Vivienne

Jan 26, 2022

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Absolutely, Simon! To answer your question, when I think of past relationships, I see people who have simply fed me what I wanted to see/hear about myself, to make me feel better... Or those people who didn't say anything - either too scared to confront me, or too scared I wouldn't be able to handle it! Meanwhile the first-class relationships we're building encourage in ourselves and each other the mature balance of both courage and consideration to risk confrontation, and to support the other person with empathy, knowing that together we will grow through it no matter what x

duanebiggerstaff8

Jan 01, 2022

Cheers for sharing Viv. Win/win relationships or no deal is powerful. Are these relationships righteous? Are they healthy? Two questions that immediately sprang to mind along with questioning the intention, i.e. is it self serving, a win/lose.

Vivienne

Jan 26, 2022

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You're so right, Duane! But how often do we ask ourselves these questions? Close to never, right? Because the ego will want to hide from how unrighteous or unhealthy they might turn out to be, and rather live in wilful ignorance of it... First-class relationships are win-win and altruistic rather than self-serving if only for the fact that we will ask each other those questions when we are to fearful to ask ourselves, and that accountability is true care x

Jai Singh

Dec 31, 2021

Thanks Viv. "No one cares what you say until they know how much you care" came to mind. Thank you

Sukh Singh

Dec 31, 2021

Yes! My goodness, I never ever in my life knew what it takes to actually build a win win relationship. It's hard!! It's not easy, and definitely not something you can cut and paste from a personal development book. It takes brutal honesty at times, incredible levels of humility... hmm and I am only just scratching the surface, I'm learning to learn how to build win-win relationships that last a lifetime. And if it can't be win-win I know first hand that it must be a no-deal. I'm getting this lesson after 10 years... if it's not win-win, it's not healthy for you or for them! Personal life and professional...

Vivienne

Jan 26, 2022

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As simple and as complex as that, huh? It's a tough lesson to learn, but if we don't feel like we can openly search our hearts and bare them in front of those who we purport to have a "good relationship" with, then who are we really kidding? And yeah, you want to be real and be shown real in life and business - I can't imagine any scenario where having layers of lies would be preferable for any reason! Cheers for building on this, Sukhs x